In the last week I've been doing some leveling with my druid and because I simply hate to quest with the 6th character through the lowlevel stuff I simply used the dungeon tool to have some fun. Well, at least I hoped it would be funny. After all it's not endlevel pugging, so what could ever happen?
A lot.
People often ask me if I know a guy that is nice during pugs. I tell them: "yes, me". And I really want to be it. Honestly.
But sometimes I beg for an earthquake or a lightning bringing those servers down so I can escape the group. Not because the group itself is unskilled or simply unable to achieve anything - this doesn't matter to me, after all it's not the highlevel dungeon. But there are people out there who make me feel nervous.
For example: I am healer. As long as people are happy or at least quiet I am focused and cool enough to stand every situation, no matter how stressful it gets. It's pure fun to heal people when they rely on our abilities and hope the end of the world they are suffering ends soon. Ok, so far, so good.
But sometimes there are guys in group who disturb my repose, my inner silence, balance,... Chi. Whatever. When a tank says "NOOB" to a dps or "stop being idiot" to another. Those things disturb me very much, they unbalance me, really much as I not only be worried about getting to read the same stuff about me...
... but also because it makes me angry.
What happened to the social aspect MMOs ever had? In Everquest, for example, realms were small and people had to play together. You saw them at least twice or even more often so nobody wanted to be the bad guy. There was something like respect for each other and when I came to talk about these nice days I often got to read that this was only because humans were forced to do so, not because they are nice beings.
I never believed this.
But now I'm starting to thing that a lot of people, at least the ones I met, are exactly those unfriendly guys, not able to be nice because they don't need to. After all it's a pug, right? You never see each other, especially after putting each other on ignore list.
This anonymity seems to tease out the worst side of some people. This results in one simple rule: If you want to know how some people really are if they could, just pug them. Not nice what you see.
Yes, former times weren't that perfect and being nice all the time was exhausting. Also it was not honest as there was a lot of backbiting going around. I don't want those times back. But I want at least the same respect for each other like people have for guys of their guild or at least: their realm. Is it that difficult?
I don't know. But I believe in Karma. Everything starts from you. If you are not nice, other people probably won't be nice, too. On the other hand: If you are nice, then it does not mean other turn to be nice, too. It's the most difficult way, but it may be that it is a signal for others. Something saying "the world is not that bad, stop biting around".
This is, at the end, why I do not leave those groups. I remain till end and do my job. If the tank or the dps gets rude I say what I have to say and if they have problems they can still kick me. Not my problem - it's theirs.
That's why I often hear music during fights and especially during discussions in group chat.
Nothing is more deescalating like a debate while you hear the theme song of The Smurfs.
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